The Problem with Staying Calm

A lot of parents ask me, “How do I stay calm?” I want to give you permission to raise your voice and get passionate with your kids, and I’m going to tell you from a brain-science perspective the problem with staying calm when your child is losing their mind.

Throughout the day, we have varying levels of energy. Zones of Regulation divides up energy levels into 4 zones–blue, green, yellow, and red.

Blue is low energy necessary for going to sleep.
Green is attentive and alert energy necessary for learning and meaningful conversation.
Yellow energy is upbeat for situations like playing or cheering at a sporting event.
Red energy is out of control.

Additionally, you’ve probably heard me talk about mirror neurons, but our nervous systems want to be like others around us.

A lot of parents think that when your child is out of control, you should stay calm. You should absolutely stay in control and regulated, but calm may not be what your child’s nervous system needs.

Watch the video below for more information and a powerful illustration.

 

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